You know  the difficult part about life and relationships is that we are always looking for an external force to fill the internal need.  When what is really required for happiness is filling yourself… finding you!  You will never be happy if you are always looking out side yourself for happiness.  When we constantly look for reasons to justify a relationship ending it is because we are unable to deal with the fact that something about us is broken and needs to be fixed… rather we look for validation that we meant something to that person or that they suffer without us.  I said to my husband last night, ” life and relationships are ego based because we are in constant need for others to validate our existence, to validate that we are here, alive, and valuable.”  You have to fix you first… then you can attract the right type of person into your life.